Category Archives: Emotions

Surviving Friendly Fire: 8 Tips for Dealing with Unfair Criticism

Sooner or later…sooner if you’re in a leadership position…you will get wounded by “friendly fire”— unfair criticism from a boss or colleague. Friendly fire comes in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes it shows up in your annual performance review when … Continue reading

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Defensiveness Is Killing Your Relationships – How To Recognize It and What To Do About It

Your defensiveness is killing your relationships and you don’t even realize it. What? Me being defensive? I’m not defensive! YOU’RE the one that’s always defensive! That’s a classic defensive response to a piece of feedback. Throw up a wall, rebut the … Continue reading

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Stop Walking on Eggshells – 4 Tips for Dealing with Temperamental People

Hunting for hidden eggs is one of the great traditions of celebrating Easter. The fun and excitement of finding eggs can be tempered by the prospect of accidentally stepping on and breaking those delicate treasures. As a result, you end up … Continue reading

Posted in Attitude, Bullying, Challenging Conversations, Communication, Conflict, Emotions, Fear, Personality, Relationships, Self-Control, Stress | 16 Comments

8 Essentials of an Effective Apology

I’m pretty good at apologizing and I think it’s primarily because of two reasons: I’ve been married for over 25 years. I mess up a lot. That means I get a lot of practice apologizing. I’ve logged way more than 10,000 … Continue reading

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4 Reasons I Use The “F” Word At Work

In most workplaces the “F” word is taboo. There are some words you just don’t say out loud and the “F” word tops the list. Leaders, in particular, are afraid to even think about the “F” word, much less say … Continue reading

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