New Year Resolutions Don’t Work – Do This 1 Thing Instead

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Don’t do it! Just. Don’t. Do. It.

New year resolutions don’t work, so don’t even bother setting one. Surveys show that just a few days into the new year, 22% of people have already broken their resolution, 11% have abandoned it altogether, and just 8% will actually keep their resolution the entire year.

So ditch the New Year’s resolution…go ahead, just do it. I give you permission. But do this one thing instead: choose a word.

One word.

A few years ago, I spent a weekend at a men’s retreat with Jon Gordon and that’s where I learned the power of one word. Jon’s written a number of best-selling books including The Energy Bus, The Carpenter, and One Word, co-written with Dan Britton and Jimmy Page.

The concept is simple yet powerful. Spend time in solitude and reflection to determine one word that will provide focus, clarity, motivation, and purpose to your activities this coming year. Not a mission statement…not a phrase…but a word. Just one word.

The word applies to all dimensions of your life: mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, and relational. Choosing one word forces you to think deeply about what’s important, not just what’s urgent. It forces you to consider the impact you want to have on others and how you want to feel about yourself when the year is done.

Jon would say the word chooses you as much as you choose it and that has been true in my experience.

The word I’m choosing for 2020 is trust.

If you’re a regular reader and follower of mine, this probably seems like a no-brainer. After all, as Trust Practice Leader for The Ken Blanchard Companies, co-author of our Building Trust training program, and author of this blog (not coincidentally named Leading with Trust), trust is the philosophical foundation of my point of view on leadership and organizational effectiveness. It’s one of my core values. It represents who I am as a leader and what I believe is the key to success for all leaders.

However, trust is taking on a deeper meaning for me in 2020. I’m doubling-down on trust and focusing 100% of my professional time on spreading the gospel of trust. I’m shifting away from my operational and senior executive responsibilities to spend more time writing, researching, speaking, and training. It’s a bit scary for me, but trust reminds me to have faith in my purpose, confidence in my abilities, and hope in the new opportunities and relationships that will come my way.

The world is in desperate need of trustworthy leadership. We need leaders who are authentic, compassionate, empathetic, respectful, and focused on bringing out the best in the people they lead. I want to see a world where leaders are more focused on serving the needs of their followers and deriving joy from their success, rather than hogging the limelight for themselves and feeding their own egos. I want a world where people lead at a higher level. Trust is the key to making that happen.

Trust…just one word but multi-dimensional in implication and potential impact.

So, don’t bother setting a new year’s resolution, and instead, choose one word to focus your energy and intent for next year. Leave a comment letting me know your one word and why you chose it.

Make 2020 a great year!

9 Comments on “New Year Resolutions Don’t Work – Do This 1 Thing Instead

  1. Big fan of John Gordon! Great share ☺

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  2. Bravo! I don’t think I’ve ever made a resolution. This year, my word is inspiration. For various and sundry reasons, over the last few years, I lost all inner inspiration and with it, hope. I’ve found my voice again, and I pledge to stay in touch with the inspiration in myself for the purpose of inspiring hope and confidence in others to start or keep on their journey to develop their leadership skills. Happy 2020!

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    • Hi Kate,

      What a wonderful word! Hope is on of our core needs as humans and I’m glad you’ve rediscovered your voice and inspiration. May 2020 be a year filled with you being inspired and in turn spreading hope to others.

      Randy

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  4. TRUTH. As I reflect over my life to this point, I can see I’ve too often embellished to make my case stronger or left out important information that may have shown me in a less than favorable light. Nothing more powerful or more valuable than the truth.

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    • Hi Bob. Thanks for candidly sharing your experience. Truth is a wonderful word choice for 2020. May we all seek to build our lives on the TRUTH.

      Best wishes,

      Randy

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  5. Great post! I like your perspective on this. I agree Trust is important , I suggest adding Clarity to it. I found out a while ago that the best way not to fail on my New Year Resolutions is not to make any! I have written an article recently about this titled ‘Why New Year Resolutions are Doomed to Fail’ – ,’https://authorjoannereed.net/new-years-resolutions/ – Feel free to check it out!

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